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ah yes its anonymous now. Mike you are one sexy person. MmmMmm...

I have no idea what's going on, or in what area this drama takes place (someone cheated on someone? Someone lied? etc) but in my experience I take this route:

-Don't tell ANYONE ANYTHING about people's business that isn't yours. You can have the best intentions imaginable, but this is ALWAYS a bad idea.

If I find out one of my friends is doing something messed up to another one of my friends (or it involved friends at odds with each other in any way, such as Friend A & Friend B have become in this situation), I encourage that friend to TALK to the friend they're deceiving/whatever, but I do not take it upon myself to tell it. Why? It's not my secret to tell, and my friendship with each person is separate from my friendship with the other.

I've been in some uncomfortable situations before, and have ended up getting brought into the middle of shit (such as one friend telling the other friend I took his/her side & using me as some kind of leverage against that person... when in fact it was all total BULLSHIT because understanding a person's perspective does not mean you do not understand the other's. Nor does it mean you're better friends or enemies with either party).Pretty much, I've decided upon the following policy:

-if said drama being told to me negatively affects another friend, make it very clear to speaking party that while you want to listen, you are not comfortable taking on all that information without the other person getting the same information, because s/he is your friend & they deserve communication in the very least.

-if said speaking friend does not respect the fact you wish all parties to be respected in the situation via communication, tell that friend you do not, thus, want to hear anymore. At this point, contemplate whether or not you really want this friend in your life, because friends who betray people will do the same shit to you someday, as it's in their nature.

Again, I don't know how relevant this is to your particular situation as it seems this all got out of your hands, but that's my point: assume anything you say will be spoken amongst them, and twisted around; parties directly involved need to talk directly to other parties, enough said.

& good luck with whatever's going on. That sounds like a shit situation. But don't take it as an attack from ALL your friends about this crap; just think about those not listening to you in the first place, consider whether it's worth it, & move on in one direction or the other.